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Personal aspects, private thoughts, powerful wishes.

 Twelve childhoods from around the globe and a generation’s insight:

This is where most things start: with personal experience.

In our childhood most parents still had tremendous respect when it came to dealing with authorities, they had a strong sense of “knowing their place”. The majority of people thought that “old boy networks” and the likes were something for the privileged - which of course was true - and that rich and well educated folks would divide up between each other whatever attractive jobs and other chances life might bring. Exclusive, as seen from the outside.

Of course there have always been kids in every generation who felt that they should have more options and more chances, who thought that the world and its wonders should be explored beyond their established regional boundaries. And their limitations have always been defined by the answers to these two questions: How much money do you have and whom do you know ?!

Times and definitions change, limits get shifted.

Many kids of our own generation were pioneers: finally we had free higher education for everybody, boys and girls were off to the universities and in further consequence also off to foreign countries. Sensational!  The previous generations had mothers who had been nowhere so far and fathers who had perhaps seen places during military service. But not much more.

And now many of us learned: No better way to get to know your own home, your nation and your way of thinking than to leave it for a while. Distance creates new perspectives, it helps to see more clearly and to understand better !

However, the hurdles to do just that were substantial. Money was sparse, language skills depended exclusively on what the schools had to offer and parental tolerance for the risk and danger of venturing abroad was often enough minimal.
For all those who did it anyway, perhaps as backpackers and hitchhikers, frequently as (perhaps not quite legal) workers on farms, in pubs and in factories, life changed forever. Self-pity is never a decent solution and they quickly learned to fend for themselves, along the way they picked up self-reliance, the art of improvising, a sharpened perception of chances and dangers.

For the twelve founding members of ParentalPal.Org this describes an essential part of their own journey to adulthood. Today ten are parents themselves (two want to be and surely will be when their time comes), nine have finished university successfully despite their parents’ concern about their ventures. Personal experience and the understanding of their peers’ life stories (the “ones that stayed behind ...”) - have resulted in their conclusion:

They want to pass on to their own children the “triangle of insight” by giving them maximum access to these three crucial ingredients ... a sound and profound education, a multicultural and international spectrum of experience, human warmth with strong values.

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A second relevant aspect for establishing the ParentalPal network:
 
Late parenthood presents societies like ours with something that is not a phenomenon any more but has long become mainstream. In today’s European cities every fourth birth is the first born child of a mum aged 35 or older. Over two thirds of all babies born today in urban Germany, France or Sweden will have retired parents when they leave university.
These babies are very often born into households that have not seen little children for a long time. Of course, mature parents are just as happy to play and be silly for fun, they are just as fit and healthy as younger parents are. But during the years they spent at university and building up their careers or businesses many of them lost touch with family life per se. They led an adult life with adult friends, based on adult decisions. Having a baby now throws many of them far more out of their established ways than they had anticipated. Their social background is not a child-related one.
People who make the deliberate decision to have a child are ready to take on all the consequences and responsibilities. Family is not something that just happened to them. They have made it happen, perhaps even with some medical support, often enough with quite a bit of heartache along the way. To create and shape a good environment for future development, ParentalPal.Org gives these parents the ideal playground to establish the right partnerships.

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The world is in fact full of people like us.
Full of parents who want to make a lot of things possible, who want to see their children make full use of their potential, lead an inspired and fulfilling life and give back to society one day what has been handed to them. Whenever time and money and other factors restrict us in our endeavours we intend to compensate by working together and helping each other.

It’s more fun this way too, for the kids and for us.

As a conclusion to these thoughts, we would like to recommend an article in the New York Times
(which we might have placed in the story book just as fittingly, but it expresses our own emotions
too well, so here it is):  “ When a Parent’s  ‘I Love You’  Means ‘Do as I Say’ ” by Alfie Kohn

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...and don’t ever settle -
keep an open mind and a passionate heart !

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